Dec 26 2009
An Open Letter to All Women: How to Really Meet Mr. Right
To all the ladies of the world, here’s my Christmas Gift to you: A no-bullshit guide to getting what many of you really want this New Year… Mr. Right.
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Lose weight and get in shape. We want a woman who has enough self-respect that she keeps herself in good shape. If you’re not in good shape, it’s a sign that you’d rather spend your free time sitting on the couch eating ice cream and watching reality TV than doing something meaningful with your life.
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Smile. This is hugely underrated. The rare woman who walks around with a smile on her face just lifts our spirits, and makes her appear so much more attractive. Are you looking like a bitch without even realizing it?
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Create. Don’t just be a consumer. Whether it be a business, a piece of artwork, or a musical composition, start leaving your mark on the world. Find a passion and get on your path to realizing that passion. There’s nothing sexier than an attractive woman who’s on her own journey in life.
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Be a giver, not a taker. Now when I say this, I’m not referring to gifts or anything material. I’m talking about emotional value. You should be a source of positive energy, not a drain of it. Have you ever been around a person who just makes everything around him or her more fun and uplifting? Be that person.
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Work on your voice. A loud, obnoxious, OMG, kind of voice is a huge turn-off. Cut that Valley Girl shit out. You can train and even change your voice with enough effort. Check out books by Roger Love for some good guides on vocal training.
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Stop asking your girlfriends for advice. This is fucking huge. Why? Because they’ll give you the absolute worst advice you can get. Most women will not tell even their good friends their true thoughts on why your last relationship ended. For example, “There’s lots of better guys out there” really means “Get your shit together and stop acting like such a neurotic bitch.” On the other hand, “I’m so happy for you” actually means “Thanks for making me feel like no guy wants me, and subconsciously I’m going to do what I can to make you single again like me.” What? You know it’s true.
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Floor,
I like number 5 kid… Rattlesnake there of.
~Frank
Amed… PS Vermont girls have the best New England accent. The worst is a toss up between Cranston RI and Lowell MA.
I have to say I completely agree with number 5. Your friends will give you the WORST advice, often because you only turn to your friend when you already know the answer. When you want to do something stupid (like call your ex who stopped returning your texts months ago), you ask your friends, hoping one will talk you into it. Here’s my whole take on this: http://datethedistrict.blogspot.com/2009/12/word-of-advice.html
oh man, that’s a great list. Number 1 is so true, it’s good to see someone upfront and honest about it. Girls don’t want to admit and guys all beat around the bush to upset someones feelings. The girls who complain about getting or keeping a man are always 20lbs overweight or so. Girls in shape and keep up at the gym never seem to have any trouble at all.
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That is NOT true. Fit women still have problems with men. The major difference is that they have an easier time finding them in the first place.
Other than that, also spot on!!
For the woman’s open letter to men, check out http://www.achickseyeview.com. Same type of advice with the shoe on the other foot!
I agree with this list, except for #1. The assumption that a woman (or man) is overweight because they live a sedentary lifestyle and/or overeat is not always the case. Some people are just overweight regardless of how much they exercise or eat “properly”.
It all comes down to personal preference and lifestyle. It is assumed that if a woman is thin, then she must be active. I have a female friend who eats like “horse”, drinks beer like a “man”, and sits on her butt all day long reading. She is also slender and of the mindset that people who workout are “stupid”.
Let’s face it: it says a lot about you and who you can attract. If you are seen with an overweight, yet totally awesome, woman, you are afraid of what people will say and think about you. There is no trophy, so to speak.
This is Boston; probably the only city outside of LA/Orange County where appearance takes top priority over everything else. Well, with the one possible exception being salary.
This is a great list! I like men who work out and people automatically assume it’s because I want a guy with a six-pack but I want a guy who has self respect and cares enough about himself to work out. I don’t want to be with a guy who works out just to get a female because when he does, he’ll be couching it again!
I agree with 1 thru 5.
I HATE LOUD GIRLS!!!
# 6 is ok, but they are women, don’t forget that.
If I may add a few more to your list:
7. Remove your ‘kiss blowing’ photos off facebook.
8. Be feminine.
Offering women a free one time half hour person training session. Help yourself meet Mr. Perfect.
I like #3. And, as part of that point, women should stop trying so hard to meet men and cultivate their own interests. Stop being so desperate and start engendering some respect! And, if you’re over 40 and single in Chicago, visit my blog about getting comfortable with yourself. (Warning: No dating advice on my blog!)