The Boston Bachelor

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / November 15, 2007

Must have been one hell of a doctor’s note.

-The Boston Bachelor

How to Look Like Billy Walsh and Get Laid Like Vinny Chase

A few weeks ago, I ran across the following post during a Google search: http://www.dcbachelor.com/2005/top-9-dating-tips-for-women.

Intrigued, I contacted the site’s author, Roosh Valizadeh, who was kind enough to send over a copy of his book Bang for review…

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / November 12, 2007

Simply put, Bang is Roosh Valizedah’s 140-page manifesto on getting laid.

Roosh, formerly known as “DC Bachelor,” runs a personal blog dedicated to his tales and travels (with an emphasis on sex and women, of course) at www.RooshV.com. The 28 year-old former microbiologist spent most of his life frustrated with his lack of success with women until one fateful spring day in 2001–when he discovered the innocuously-titled Tony’s Lay Guide after clicking through a random link on a message board.

Now six years and countless encounters later, Roosh has written his own instruction manual on rounding-the-bases with the opposite sex. Now, the question you’re probably pondering is: Does this guy know what he’s talking about?

I believe so. Bang is a dense but informative read, full of advice even the most weathered Casanovas and “pick-up artists” can appreciate. The book wastes no time in breaking things down bit-by-bit from the approach to the date to the bedroom. For those of you who are more familiar with the whole “pick-up community,” Bang strikes a good balance between the structured, sequential “Mystery Method” and the more free-flowing “Charisma Arts.”

If there’s one chapter that stands out more than others, it’s the one titled “Late Game,” which breaks down the step-by-step (or article of clothing-by-article of clothing) journey from the end of the date to the end of the orgasm. The chapter titled “Internal Game” is another highlight, as it discusses the most powerful sexual magnet of all–the human mind. The odds-and-ends Appendix also serves up a great variety of tidbits, from approaching girls in cars to dealing with girls who suck (in a bad way) in the sack. I do wish that more specifics on body language and its importance were presented in the book–a minor complaint, all in all.

Bang will probably serve most useful to those who are already experiencing some success with women, or who are at least taking steps (and seeing improvements) in their dating life. If you’re 23 years old and have never been on a date in your life, then you’re probably better off reading Neil Strauss’ The Game and David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating first to eliminate skeptical or limiting beliefs and obtain a better understanding of why women do the sometimes crazy things that they do.

Like all other decent pick-up books, Bang is simply one man’s method: nothing less, nothing more. It’s just one more tool in your ever-growing repertoire. So keep an open mind, incorporate what helps, and disregard what doesn’t. There’s always more than one way to skin a cat–or get laid, for that matter.

-The Boston Bachelor

Tonight (11/6) at 11 pm EDT Frankie Picasso and I will be premiering our new live Internet radio show, The Babe and The Bachelor. Check in with us as we discuss and argue:

1. How all men can easily improve their looks by at least 2-3 “points”… without spending a fortune.

2. What does gender equality really mean these days?

3. Why is it that some men are naturally good with women, while other men go through life completely cluess?

4. The best mens’ colognes on the market… callers please chime in on this one.

5. Questions from our callers.

AND MORE…

You can call in anytime during the show at (646) 595-3961.

See you tonight.

-The Boston Bachelor

Number 4: Being a “Nice Guy” Is Not the Same As “Being Yourself”

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / October 19, 2007 

“But I just want to be myself.”

Who’s ever heard that whiny slice of cheese from a guy before?

The kicker is, “being yourself” really does work.  No lie.  The thing is, being yourself only works if you’re truly being yourself—i.e., the same guy who sings along to New Order at the top of his lungs while he’s driving; the same guy who teases his best friends about their choice in movies; the same guy who’s always there for those who’ve earned a place in his inner circle.

Unfortunately, when most guys say they just want to “be themselves,” what they’re really saying is “I want to keep doing what I’m doing because I can’t accept the fact that I have certain weaknesses or that I’m wrong.”  I know this because I was once one of those guys (cue sad music).

If a really fat person (and I mean orca fat) came up to you and said, “I don’t want to lose weight because that’s not being myself,” how many seconds would you last before you burst out laughing?  It’s the exact same thing with someone who has trouble attracting women because he can’t hold eye contact, always mumbles, and dresses like he just stepped off the set of White Men Can’t Jump.  How would you react if he told you, “I don’t want to learn about dressing well or proper speech etiquette because that’s not being myself.”  Call me crazy, but that’s some craaazy-ass shit.

The same goes with the self-championed “nice guy.”  Deep down you’re not as “nice” and “sexually non-threatening” as you claim to be, and you know that (and so does the porn collection on your hard drive).  Like the rest of us, you have certain values and interests you love—and some you despise and ridicule.  Like the rest of us, there were times in 8th Grade Science class where you couldn’t go to the chalkboard because of certain involuntary episodes of groinal rigor mortis.  And like the rest of us, you also check out the hot bartender’s ass when she turns around to make your drink.  So stop pretending to be a saintly eunuch, especially in the presence of women.  Have you ever had a boss who was a complete asshole, but acted like a complete doormat in the presence of an attractive woman?  Exactly—don’t be that guy.

We all have the same desires and passions; it’s just that many of us (the “nice guys”) choose to repress or mask our innate qualities, whereas the rest of us choose to accept them.  So the next time you’re out with a woman, stop peddling the fuzzy bullshit.  Don’t be afraid to tell her what you really like and dislike, or to tease her about her Nurse Betty Collector’s Edition Box Set.

Unfortunately, today’s society seems to push more and more of that “be the fake nice guy” crap in movies, television, and advertising; just turn on any romantic comedy or NBC sitcom.  So what’s left?  A whole lot of frustrated men, and just as many frustrated, sexually-unsatisfied women.  But remember: unless you live in North Korea, the ultimate responsibility for change still rests in your hands.

Like the kid in The Chocolate War who refused to sell those stupid candy bars, sometimes you have to ask yourself the question: “Do I dare disturb the universe?”

You should already know the answer to that one.
 

UPDATE: November 1, 2007

Table 1.  Being a ”Nice Guy” vs. Being Yourself

-The Boston Bachelor

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / October 15, 2007

Things sure have changed since the days of helping Link find The Hammer in Death Mountain.

Here’s a fascinating inside look at the world of professional gaming, replete with Drafts held at the Playboy Mansion (the woman in the picture above is actually the first ever overall pick) and some lady shelling out her body on CraigsList in exchange for some virtual goodness.  Maybe it’s time for me to dust off the ol’ Mike Tyson’s Punch-out! and Duck Hunt, no?

-The Boston Bachelor

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / September 30, 2007

Unless that happens to tickle your fancy…

-The Boston Bachelor

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / September 21, 2007

For those of you who missed Tuesday night’s interview on Coach of the Airwaves Radio (or are just looking for a reclarification on ”skin” friends vs. “no-skin” friends), you can download it here (right-click and hit “Save As”).  Listen to us barrel through topics such as: online dating, The Boston Bachelor’s past life, tech schools, “skin friends” vs. “no-skin friends,” the meaning of confidence, pickup lines, sports athletes, approaching beautiful women at bars, and the infamous eyeball lick.  You can also download or stream the interview via the left side-panel.

As for the questions and material we’ve yet to cover, Frankie and I have tentatively scheduled a follow up interview for mid-to-late October.  More details to follow.

-The Boston Bachelor

By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / September 7, 2007 

Yep.

-The Boston Bachelor