Jun 30 2008
BY THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / June 12, 2008
A very frank and often hilarious conversation with Neil Strauss on his experiences following the publication of The Game, courtesy of AJ and Jordan from Pickup Podcast. Click below to listen:
Part 1 of the Neil Strauss Interview
Part 2 of the Neil Strauss Interview
-The Boston Bachelor
Apr 21 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / April 21, 2008
Alright folks, first I’ve got some good news and some bad news for you.
The bad news: The Babe and The Bachelor will be no more as of Tuesday, 4/29, which will be our last show.
The good news: My good friend V will be filling in as a special guest host for tonight’s show and next week’s finale.
Now onto the details for tonight’s show:
Click here to tune in tonight beginning at 8 pm EDT…
-The Boston Bachelor
Apr 17 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / April 17, 2008
For most guys, online dating is a fucking waste of time. Actually, according to Jupiter Research, online dating is a really big fucking waste of time, as 97% of guys cancel their online dating membership within 3 months due to dissatisfaction. The number one reason cited in this survey?
Lack of response.
In fact, the NY Times bestselling book Freakonomics states that 57% of men who sign up for online dating go through their membership without getting a single response from a gal. Instead, in today’s online dating world, most guys experience the following:
1. Guy puts up typical online dating profile and shells out $60 for a 3 month membership.
2. Guy browses for profiles.
3. Guy emails 100 girls over the next few months.
4. Guy gets 5 responses back from the 100 initial emails he sent. 3 of them read “Sorry, but I don’t think we’re compatible. Good luck!” The remaining 2 seem promising, so he emails them asking for their phone numbers. One offers her screen name instead, and he never hears back from the other.
5. Guy chats on-and-off with the girl over AOL IM or MSN or GTalk. He tries to get a face-to-face meeting with her, but it never materializes. Guy increases porn-viewing habits.
6. Guy cancels online dating membership, and puts a picture of Dr. Phil’s face on his dartboard.
Sadly the above scenario is really not much of an exaggeration. So why is online dating so fucked? Well, for starters…
• It’s a huge numbers game. If you’re a guy and you don’t believe me, do what I did and set up a personals profile as a slightly attractive woman on CraigsList. I guarantee that you’ll get at least 50 email responses within the first few hours. By the second day you’ll have at least 100-150 replies.
• You’re probably writing the same shit as all the other guys write, or copying and pasting from a template (yes, she’ll be able to tell; no, I don’t blame you for doing it). Again, set up a fake profile as a girl and you’ll see what I mean.
• Writing individually tailored emails takes up a lot of time, time that could be better spent on more productive activities (like shaving the back of your neck).
• There’s a lot of crazy people out there. PS: If a woman has the acronym TV in “her” tagline, that doesn’t mean that “she” likes to watch television.
• Pictures lie.
• Many of these online dating sites have no qualms about making their employees pose as lonely, nubile 19 year-olds to keep you on the site.
• You’ll get more rebounds than Dwight Howard in a charity basketball game. Seriously, at least half the women on the site just got out of a long term relationship.
• They drop like flies. If they’ve been on the site for more than a week, chances are they’ve already received more emails than they can check.
Yeah, you get the point.
But 2 weeks ago, I received an email from the folks over at Yahoo! Personals, offering me a free 3 month trial membership. So I thought to myself, why not take them up on their offer and make a little experiment out of it: Is it really possible for the average guy to just put up a profile, sit back, and have women (who aren’t actually guys in Bombay selling penis pills) emailing him constantly?
So here’s the challenge:
1. For the next 10 weeks, I’m going to rotate a new profile and profile tagline. For starters, I’m just going to use a plain-vanilla profile and tagline, one you’d typically see in the average guy’s profile.
2. I’m going to count both the number of views and the number of responses I get (positive, neutral, negative).
3. This is where I need your help. 8 of the 10 profiles and taglines will be coming from the readers here. The profiles can say anything, provided that they’re approved by the dating site and they don’t contain any kind of hate language or personal threats. Otherwise, use your imagination and come up with something creative. Email me your original profile and tagline at bb@thebostonbachelor.com. Do not post it in the comments section here, for obvious reasons.
4. At the end of the trial period, the results and responses will be tallied. The person who wrote the profile that received the most number of positive and neutral email responses from women will get a surprise gift. Of course, if you don’t want the gift, I’ll just keep it for myself.
I’ll be back in a few weeks with an update. Have fun; I know I will.
-The Boston Bachelor
Apr 01 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / April 1, 2008
Tune in to The Babe and The Bachelor This Tuesday at 9 pm EDT as we discuss:
1. Does age really matter? Why do some people only go for those who are much older or younger than themselves?
2. What are the fatal flaws, ie the dealbreakers, when it comes to the opposite sex?
Call in during the show with any questions at (646) 595-3961.
See you tonight.
-The Boston Bachelor
Mar 31 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / March 31, 2008
Ever wonder how singles in the United States are distributed population wise? Well the wise folks over at National Geographic created a unique map to answer this question. The results may surprise you…
-The Boston Bachelor
Feb 22 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / February 22, 2008
Clubs can be an intimidating mix of strange odors, sweaty people, overpriced drinks, and shitty music to the uninitiated. So we’ve come up with a list of common questions the newcomer might ask. If you believe that we’ve missed something, email us your question at bb@thebostonbachelor.com.
Why is the music so bad, and why do they play the same songs ever week?
The DJ spins music for the female booty-shaking factor, not quality or variety. So save Another Green World for the car ride there.
Why does every girl/guy strive to buy club clothes that make them unique, but still end up looking the same as every other girl/guy in there?
Good question.
What’s up with the two girls who are grinding with each other in the middle of the dance floor?
“Pleeease pay attention to us! Pleeeaaase!”
What’s up with the circle of guys standing around the two girls who are grinding with each other in the middle of the dance floor?
If anyone wants to make an argument that women are smarter than men, now’s the time.
Why is that guy watching the TV / playing with his phone / going to the bathroom every 5 minutes / going out for a smoke every 5 minutes?
One word: stalling.
Why are some bouncers/doormen complete assholes?
Because they realize that holding a cheap velvet rope for 3 hours is the most power they’ll ever possess in their lives.
Why do people wait until lines go around the block and cover charges are in effect before they head out to clubs?
Because they’re dumbasses.
I can’t dance.
Most people can’t, so who gives a fuck and just do it anyway. I sure as hell can’t (unless you spin some New Order or Madchester–long live Bez!).
I don’t like dancing. Can I still meet girls at a club?
Yes–at the bar, in line, near the coat check, in the booths, etc.
Why are the drinks so fucking expensive?
Because most of the club’s revenue comes from the alcohol, not the cover charges. And people will stay pay for it, just as they still pay $3.39 for a gallon of gas.
What’s up with the girl who’s in line by herself, checking her cell phone every 20 seconds, keeps looking to the side, with her arms crossed over her chest?
1. She’s waiting for her friends or boyfriend.
2. She’s insecure that people will think that she’s going to a club by herself.
I hate clubs, but I hear they’re the best for practicing your game. Is this true?
Yes and no. If you have trouble talking to strangers, then they’re good in terms of the sheer volume of approaches you can make. If you’re looking for relationship material, then no.
Why do so many girls play with their phones in the club?
Because no guys are approaching them and they’re afraid of being perceived as undesirable.
I like girls who are into Heroes of Might and Magic IV, pre-8 1/2 Fellini films, Greek cooking, commnuity service, and the writings of J.G. Ballard. Is there any chance I’m going to meet a girl like that in a club?
No.
What’s up with the meathead who walks around with a perpetual scowl on his face?
He believes that he’s acting like an “alpha male.” However, this behavior is neither “alpha” nor “male.”
Why do many clubs ban “Tims” (Timberland boots)?
Official Reason: “They’re informal and can scuff up dance floors.”
Unofficial Reason: “They’re too ‘hip hop’ for our desired Eurotrash vibe. That and we’re afraid of black people.”
Why don’t some bartenders say “thanks” you give them a tip?
Because they’re fucking rude.
I think I saw Boston Celtics reserve forward Brian Scalabrine in a bar once. Was it really him?
If this was a bar outside Boston, then yes. If this was a bar in Boston, then you probably just saw one of 16,793 registered Brian Scalabrine look-a-likes in the state of Massachusetts. And yes, V, that was Rajon Rondo (in non-Gumby form) you saw at the Burlington Mall Macy’s.
Why are so many girls standing around packt like sardines in a crushd tin box?
Because just as with any street gang or fraternity, they believe that confidence and protection only exists in groups.
Does “peacocking” work?
Yes, but only for guys who are already very social and high-energy. If you’re the low-key type an interesting prop would suit you better.
What are the 6 biggest mistakes guys make in the club?
From my own personal experience:
6. Ignoring a girl’s friends when you first start talking to her.
5. Circling around the club numerous times trying to see where the “hot girls” are.
4. Leaning in every time you talk to her.
3. Not speaking LOUD ENOUGH.
2. Hesitating.
1. Going to clubs for the purpose of “picking up girls” as opposed to going just to have a fun time and be social. If you can’t have a good time by just being there, then find a venue you can actually enjoy.
I asked a girl to guess my nationality, but she didn’t know what the word “nationality” meant. Is she retarded?
Let me ask her cousin JFr—nevermind.
-The Boston Bachelor
Feb 12 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / February 12, 2008
UPDATE: SHOW IS RESCHEDULED FOR TUESDAY, MARCH 11 AT 9:00 PM EST.
An open letter to all the women out there:
We men all share a secret. The secret? When it comes to women, we look at more than just physical beauty. Much more.
Of course, we still have to find you sexually attractive, but to any guy worth his salt, looks is only the 1st of many steps in the screening process. There’s a distinct reason why your similar-looking girl friend is constantly meeting her “McDreamy” (yeah, I just felt sick as I typed that word for the first and last time in my life) while you’re being treated like second hand news. And it comes down to… Well, you’re going to have to tune in to The Babe and The Bachelor Tonight at 9 pm EDT to find out.
Also, we study the underrated art of storytelling, or how to make any ol’ personal anecdote interesting to everyone. Even if it doesn’t involve having to “borrow” a ladder from the fire station to rescue your keys from a second-story roof at 2 in the morning.
Call in during the show with any questions at (646) 595-3961.
See you tonight.
-The Boston Bachelor
Jan 28 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / January 28, 2008
Legendary pickup artist and dating guru Carlos Xuma will be joining us for a special edition of The Babe and The Bachelor this Tuesday, January 29th at 9 pm EDT.
Carlos is the author of The Dating Black Book, The Secrets of the Alpha Man, and The Alpha Rules, and has previously collaborated with David DeAngelo, Lance Mason of Pickup101, and Neil Strauss and The StyleLife Academy.
Call in during the show at (646) 595-3961.
See you tomorrow night.
-The Boston Bachelor
Jan 08 2008
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / January 8, 2008
Just a reminder–tonight at 9 pm EDT The Babe and The Bachelor returns from the holiday break to reveal all about the secret society of pickup artists. We’ll see you then.
-The Boston Bachelor
Dec 18 2007
By THEBOSTONBACHELOR.COM / December 18, 2007
Tune in Tuesday, January 8th at 9 pm EDT on The Babe and The Bachelor for this extra-special show:
1. Pickup Artists. In the mid-90s, a group of men from all over the world converged over the Internet to master the one part of their lives that forever eluded them–women. Years later, mostly due to Neil Strauss’ 2005 bestselling memoir The Game, the “pickup artist” phenomenon is alive more than ever–from books to DVDs to seminars to reality TV shows such as VH-1’s The Pick Up Artist. Who are these pickup artists that go under the pseudonyms of Mystery, Style, David DeAngelo, Carlos Xuma, Tyler Durden, and Zan? What do they really teach, and do their methods work? Tune in to learnan in insider’s perspective on the facts and the myths about this fascinating underground society.
2. Getting physical on the first date.
3. 10 fun, (almost) free places to take a date.
4. Questions from our callers… (please, no closeted admirers this time.)
AND MORE…
Call in during the show at (646) 595-3961.
See you tonight.
-The Boston Bachelor
